I Want to Go Back

Yussi27 Dec 20251 min readUpdated 24 Sep 2026Little 15 Mins
I Want to Go Back
MHJ ENGLISH GUIDE 2026
Choosing Childcare in NZ — A Guide for Newcomer Families
What to know before you start looking, and how to make it work for your child.
20 hrs
Free ECE / Week
Age 3–5
Eligibility
6 hr/day
Max Per Day
20 Hours Free ECE: Every child aged 3–5 in NZ gets up to 20 hours of free early childhood education per week, regardless of visa status or residency. This applies at any licensed, teacher-led centre. You cannot be charged fees for these hours. Additional hours beyond 20 will incur a fee — rates vary by centre.
Types of centres: Education & care centres (full-day, most flexible hours), kindergartens (session-based, often school hours only, very affordable), home-based care (small groups of up to 4 in an educator's home), and Playcentre (parent-led, very low cost but you stay with your child). For working or studying parents, education & care centres are usually the most practical option.
Hours are flexible: You don't have to go full-time. Many centres let you start with just a few hours a day and build up. We started at 4 hours — enough for our daughter to settle in without being overwhelmed. If you go beyond 20 hours a week, some centres offer discounted rates for longer days. Ask upfront.
How to choose: Most centres accept tour bookings through their website. Visit with your child. Look at the space, the teachers, the other children — but let your child's comfort lead the decision. A well-equipped centre means nothing if the child feels overwhelmed. A smaller, warmer space where they feel safe will do more for their settling-in than any curriculum brochure.
For immigrant families: Ask whether any staff speak your language — even a few words make a huge difference in the early weeks. Check if there are other children from similar backgrounds. NZ daycare is play-based by philosophy, not academic — your child won't be expected to sit and learn letters. That low-pressure environment is exactly what a child adjusting to a new language needs.
20 Hours ECE: Ministry of Education, NZ. Centre types and requirements: Ministry of Education — Types of Early Learning (2025). Funding eligibility: ECE Funding Handbook, Chapter 4-1.

Once her sisters started school, the rest of us — my parents, Penny, Jin and I — were busy finding our feet. Setting up the house, learning how things work here, figuring out the basics of a new life. Finding a daycare for Jin was part of that.

Finding Her First Kindy

We visited two. One was large and well-equipped — spacious rooms, purpose-built play areas, everything gleaming. The other was small and homely, a little worn, with the warmth of someone's living room. Jin chose the small one. In a new country where everything already felt too big, she reached for the space that felt safe.

She started at four hours a day.

Facing the Language Barrier

Most days were fine, but some mornings she'd resist. When I asked why, she said quietly: "They only speak English here. I don't understand." After her grandparents flew home to Korea, she started saying something else too: "I want to go back."

Last letter: “Mairangi Notes #25 Spring Forward!”

Her teacher helped. He was Chinese, married to a Korean woman, and could manage a few Korean words — enough to make Jin feel seen. She latched onto him immediately, calling him Kindy Daddy. He became her anchor.

Her First English Words

The centre was play-based and unhurried. Nobody expected her to sit and learn. And within days, she surprised us — she came home and asked for her water bottle. Not 물병. Water bottle. Her first English word, swapped in naturally where the Korean one used to be.

She made friends quickly too — a handful of Korean girls her age, drawn together in the sandpit the way four-year-olds are. Between them and Alan Daddy and the easy rhythm of the place, she found her footing.

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Yussi

Yussi

Writer · Social work student, Massey University

A mother of three girls and a Korean immigrant making Mairangi Bay home — writing about starting school, home learning and everyday life on Auckland's North Shore.

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